Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Poetry of Mine

I am afraid to speak the words that linger beneath my tongue..
Words that when let out into the night sky can not be be put back into their once safe place.

Am I ready to let them free?
To let myself be free?
Not yet.
I am not ready to part with my sanity.

Those words so innocent and nieve...
They dont know what they are getting themselves in to.
But I do!
I know what they can do; I know the power that they hold.
I know the power that I hold.

So for now..
I will keep them. I will keep them safe with me.

I have not written in a long time.. well, not poetry. Not anything that may elicit genuine emotion. I hold my writing very dear to me.. and would like to know what you guys think. So feel free to share opinions about it! Thanks for reading :)

A New Favorite Of Mine

Read this... I stole it from another blog.. at the bottom i have shared the link to her blog. Its a good read! I recommend it to everyone. Her writing is so full of emotion and honesty. Something i believe we all need to read so that we can see or understand that we arent the only ones who deal with certain issues.

Let me know what you all think? Thanks!



On depression.

July 9th, 2012
Off and on for the past five years or so, I’ve gone to therapy. Often brief stints of me feeling low, sometimes lower than low, and not quite knowing what else could help besides a cake with one fork and an empty room. And so, I find a psychologist in my area and I spend a few months articulating the lowliness I’ve felt all my life, the one that hasn’t gone away even in times of thinness and health, success and wealth. Inevitably I decide that we’ve done all we can do, we say our goodbyes- my therapist and I- and we part ways. Lots of times I move states or countries and begin to feel a momentary betterment. Some geographic distraction.
The thing is, it has never quite gotten better entirely. I haven’t shaken that feeling of anxiousness, sadness, loneliness, utter boredom despite plenty to do. Not in twenty seven years.
The first time I called my mom to tell her of my shade of blue, I was 20 and standing out front of my college dorm.
“I just feel down. Everyday. Just…so lonely” I told her, standing no more than 15 feet from a group of my friends. Irony at play.
The heaviness, that foggy feeling felt familiar. It felt as though the sadness, the depression I was discovering- that it had been with me forever; I just hadn’t been able to articulate it until now.
I lived a full year in an outwardly happy, inwardly unsettled sort of way. I wasn’t sure what could be the matter. Other than an alcohol-soaked girlhood, a dad who’d died, and morbid obesity, I just wasn’t able to pinpoint the root of it. So I met with my first therapist. I can’t say it helped, but it felt proactive, and maybe that was enough to feel like I was getting somewhere.
Over the next seven years, two and a half of which you’ve known me here, I’ve felt a wavy up and down. It’s always progression and regression, peace and panic, a forever tingling of ants in my pants. If I were to try to describe my depression, I’d echo what Sarah Silverman wrote in her book, “The Bedwetter.” She described it as a feeling of homesickness when you’re already home. This description is the only sentence I’ve read in all seven thousand self help books I’ve bought that actually makes me sigh, long and relieved, like someone gets it.
And what I’d add to this feeling of homesickness, is that so much of what I feel is contradictory. I feel deeply lonely, even with friends. I feel like I’m losing, even if I might have won. I feel like I’m struggling, drowning, even though I’ve got nothing nagging at me, nothing weighing me down. I feel tired, chronically, despite any stretch of sleep. I feel utterly, utterly bored but without enough ambition to seek activity. Hopeless. Like everyday is a struggle to get through, even the great ones. As though I am all alone and always will be, even if just in my head.
And really, it feels as insane as it sounds.
My life,
on paper,
is beautiful.
Maybe the fact that it’s so beautiful and I can’t quite feel its beauty is what makes me even sadder. There’s guilt in not being able to just wrap my arms around everything and absorb what happiness it could give me.
The thing is, I get through the days. I get through them very, very well. I wake up, I go about living in the way I’d want to live if I felt better. I try to be the person I’d want to be, were I more naturally inclined to being her. Mostly because- what else is there to do? The world, the show, they just go on.
It’s not that I’m not letting myself be who I truly am, it’s that I’m fighting against all urges to tuck under my covers forever. What’s interesting, I imagine, is that I seem happy. I seem light. And there are moments, lots of them, where I am happy and light. It’s just the other times, most times, when I’m working toward contentment of any kind.
My belief is that some of us have a happiness balance gone wonky. Our serotonin levels, our dopamine levels- whatever it may be- they’re just not quite up to par. And maybe medication restores some of the natural balance. Maybe it sets us at the same starting line as the rest of the world’s race runners, rather than twenty feet back. It doesn’t make us happier, not better, all by itself. But it lets us shake off a bit of that hopelessness, so that at least momentarily, we see that life won’t always feel like trudging through quicksand.
This week I’m starting to see a new therapist. To talk about life and anxiety and to ask her why, despite two book deals, traveling the world, and all the charming parts of my life, I’m still blue.
I believe in therapy. I believe in the experience of articulating feeling and thought. I believe in hearing myself say those things- crazy and non-crazy- and having someone else hear them, interpret them, too. It’s freeing. It’s validating.
I’m not sure this post has a purpose other than doing what I so love to do: letting my hair down, showing you that even if it seems as though my life is all manner of lovely, it isn’t always. So if you’re struggling, with anything really, I guess I want you to know that I struggle too. And that it’s all okay.
*Though this post is about depression, it isn’t meant to be sad. I don’t want anyone to worry about my emotional state or to think I’m floundering. While looking at my calendar this week, I saw the therapy appointment and I realized, as I often do when I toss out one of these types of posts, that this is the kind of honesty I like to share. Because I like empathy. And I really like thinking that we’re all in it together.

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Monday, July 23, 2012

Sweet and Sour Chicken

Looks pretty simple! I think i am going to try it out!
Sweet and Sour Chicken

Chicken Breading:3-5 chicken breast
salt and pepper
1 cup cornstarch
2 eggs, beaten
1/3 cup canola oil

Rinse chicken, trim off fat or extras and then cut into 1 inch cubes. season with salt and pepper. Dip chicken into cornstarch and coat all the way and then into eggs. Heat oil in large skillet. Cook chicken until browned. Place in baking dish. 3 chicken breasts can be in a 9x9 but 5 chicken breasts fits better in a 9x13.

Sauce:3/4 cups sugar
4 Tablespoons ketchup
1/2 cup white distilled vinegar
1 Tablespoon soy sauce
1 teaspoon garlic salt

Whisk until smooth. Then pour evenly over chicken. Turn chicken so the sauce gets on both sides and then put in the oven at 350 degrees for 15 minutes. turn chicken and then cook for 15 more minutes.

Depression.. It Happens.

Today is one of those days.. I feel beat.

I woke up and feel disgusting. I stopped eating healthy, i stopped exercising, i stopped writing.. I stopped doing everything.
I bought some pants and got them today in the mail. They didnt fit right. They were a size 18. wtf?!

I feel so disgusting and down about myself.. And when i have these miserable days its like everything that i have ever dealt with or have yet to actually deal with piles in my head. It makes me so angry. I feel so lonely today.

I need to start back on making myself happy. I need to stop making excuses for myself..

I need help with that :(

Im afraid it may be time to go back to do some therapy.. I just wish i could take a few days to be alone and gather myself.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

ME Time

Bahaha there are way too many days when i feel like this... Having kids is wonderful. But, dont forget that you need some alone time every once in a while to keep your sanity haha

Even if it means putting kid(s) down for a nap and sitting in the tub to soak and relax. Or sit and read a book.

Go out to luch with a friend so you can have a little time to have some "grown up" conversations..

Take a fun dance class..

And dont forget to make sure you are making some time for your relationship and your significant other.

And dont feel guilty for feeling like you need to get away from your kids.. Its normal. Does not in anyway shape or form make you a bad parent. Like I said, Being a parent is magnificent and quite fulfilling... But, some days we all just need a little break.

At least i know i do!

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Crescent Pepperoni Roll-Ups

Crescent Pepperoni Roll-Ups
Prep time: 5 mins
Cook time: 15 mins
Total time: 20 mins
Serves: 8
  • 1 can refrigerated crescent rolls
  • 40 slices pepperoni
  • 4 pieces of mozzarella string cheese, cut in half
  • pizza sauce
  1. Preheat oven to 375
  2. Unroll crescent rolls and separate into 8 triangles. Place 5 slices of pepperoni on each crescent roll. Top pepperoni with string cheese half and roll up. Place rolls on baking sheet and bake for 12-15 minutes, or until golden brown.

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So I created a new page on FB for anyone that wants to add it it is Fit And Fabulous  Go like it and start being a part of the conversations :)

Friday, July 6, 2012

Good Housewives Guide

So, I found this article on what a "good housewife" is.. this article is my favorite that I have found. Its do-able. I think it is a very good starting point.
Let me know what you all think? Or any other good points that you guys think should be added.

How to be a Good Housewife

A housewife is a married woman who is not employed outside the home. Most often, the husband works during the day and earns income to support the family, while the wife takes on most of the non-financial responsibilities, such as maintaining the home and, if applicable, caring for the kids. It is up to the couple whether this arrangement works for them. Sometimes it's a temporary situation, such as if children are too young to go to school and the cost of daycare is greater than the woman's salary. For other couples, it may represent a commitment to traditional values. Whatever the reason, if you have chosen to be a housewife, here are some suggestions to help you flourish in this role.

Discuss expectations with your partner. Discuss realistic expectations, and how to meet them as best as you can. The definition of a good housewife depends on which house you live in. It is also very culture-dependent (see below). Do not presume that you have the same expectations because you may find out the hard way (through arguments) that you don't. Sit down and talk it over. What are the things he is hoping you will keep up with in the home? What are his responsibilities in the home? If you are primarily responsible for keeping the house clean, he may take responsibility for cleaning up after himself: putting his dirty laundry in the hamper, placing things where they belong after he has finished using them, emptying the trash near his desk, putting his dishes in the dishwasher, etc. If you are also caring for young children during the day, you may be surprised by how difficult it is to also keep up with household tasks. Your husband may need to help significantly with the cooking and cleaning, if possible.

Maintain a great appearance. It is all too easy to stop paying attention to your appearance when you have a husband, but maintaining attraction is a key element of a long-term relationship. While it was important to keep a good appearance during dating/courtship, it is even more important in a married relationship, or any committed relationship. Try to spend some time each day making yourself look pretty, wearing clothes that delight him. If your husband oftentimes tells you he likes when you wear a certain garment or outfit, by all means, take the hint. Good grooming and hygiene are vital, so keep yourself neat and feminine by having a pretty hair cut, nice nails and smooth legs/underarms.

Learn to cook. Plan ahead, with the aim to have a delicious meal on the table when he gets home from work. It is often said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and it is absolutely true! Microwave meals are not suitable cuisine, so find a recipe book you like and start experimenting. Having a great meal ready is a good way to let him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. A good meal can be an expression of love and a warm welcome for your partner when he gets home.


Be mindful and considerate of your spouse's needs. Lots of men need space when they come home from a hard day at work, so welcome him home with a big smile and allow him to relax and unwind. Have his favourite meal and drink ready, and let him relax after a tough day of work. Be available to spend time with him and comfort him, but if he wants to spend time alone or with his friends and not you, take a step back and let him have his way.

Listen to him. A good wife listens to what her spouse has to say without interrupting. Show empathy and learn how to have great conversations. The key idea is that to be a good conversationalist, you should strive to listen more and talk less, by engaging the other person to talk more about his interests. That is the mark of humility, respect, selflessness, and generosity.

Tidy up the house and make your home a clean and pleasant place to live in.

Improve your skills in the bedroom. It never hurts, and will only help to learn more about the sexual side of marriage. There are lots of books and websites that can help you improve your sexual techniques.

Find a balance in arguments, but avoid them if possible. Nagging never works, and will only serve to irritate your spouse. Not speaking your mind is just as bad. Husbands are not tyrannic creatures: if you find a balance in arguments, and take turns to speak, things will surely improve.

Love your spouse for who he is. Don't criticize him in an unconstructive, cruel, or nagging way. Whatever your image of the 'ideal' man may be, everyone is unique in his own ways, so try to respect that. Before you try to improve others, try to improve yourself first. If you find things disagreeable about him, let him know in a mature, sensible and loving way: chances are that he will agree on some things and/or explain others, plus it will build trust between both of you and save unnecessary conflicts.

Let him take control of certain situations, more so if they are extra personal situations like choosing his hobby, his meals, his clothes, etc. When you are home a lot, it can be easy to want to take control of everything your husband does in the home, but this may not be your husband's preference. It's all right if you want to give him your input in a polite way, more so if he asked you. Otherwise, let him have his space, just as you'd want yours. He's a separate human being from you; always remember that.

Cultural considerations


  • In Mexico, the wife is the core of the familial unit. Matriarchal families are very common and strong. Housewives are seen as benevolent, intelligent, wise, and almost magical creatures, since they are thought to have answers, remedies and solutions to almost every problem in the family's daily life, from a small cut to a heartbreak.
  • Being a strongly Catholic country, more so in rural places, Mexico is a country where women are usually urged to take on the roles of housewives and mothers as the Bible says, and have to know certain basics: how to cook, sew (and sometimes even embroider), to cure minor wounds (some even know minor 'first aid' maneuvers), how to keep a house clean and tidy, and even some book-keeping. Mostly in rural areas, if a woman does not know these things she could be very much frowned upon even by her family.
  • With the economy increasingly in crisis, Mexican wives have started getting a job, too, and still are housewives, just not homestead ones. Also, men have taken to helping their wives more and more, be it with children or the cooking or the tidying.

Feminist critique

  • Many feminists, such as Betty Friedan, have criticized the marginalization of women as housewives. Feminists generally suggest that 'housework' should be an appropriate role for a parent of either sex, believing that gender roles do not have any basis other than social conditioning. They also maintain that women can become socially isolated by being tied to their home. Some feminists would argue that the goal of feminism is not to close off any options for women, but to create opportunities for women to pursue careers in traditionally male occupations, as well as providing males an option to pursue roles that so far have been perceived as "strictly female". Indeed, the role of the stay-at-home dad or househusband has become more socially recognized as an available option in modern Western cultures.
  • Some feminists also point out that the monetary contribution of housewives' work to society is ignored in standard formulations of economic output, such as GDP or employment figures. Housewives work many unrecorded hours a week, while depending on their partner's employment to provide health insurance and household income. The State or individuals would have to assume staggering costs such as childcare in the absence of unpaid housewives.

Biblical considerations

  • The Bible has a lot to say about how to be a good housewife. Much of it is in Proverbs and the Song of Songs. For example, Proverbs xxxi. 10-31:

"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Beginner/Intermediate Circuit Training

Circuit Training Workout

Circuit training is a great way to combine cardio and strength if you're short on time. This workout has two circuits, each with six strength/cardio exercises that are completed one right after the other, with little or no rest in between. Do each exercise for the specified amount of time (or as long as you can safely do so) and then move on to the next exercise. Once you complete all exercises, that is considered one circuit. Make sure you warm up with 5-10 minutes of light cardio and cool down with a stretch. Times are suggestion only--please modify according to your fitness level and perceived exertion.

  • Beginners: Complete Circuit I once
  • Intermediates: Complete both circuits once (or more)
  • Advanced: Complete both circuits 3 or more times

Circuit I

SquatsPlace an exercise ball behind the back and against the wall with feet hip-width apart, abs in and torso straight. Bend your knees and lower down until knees are at 90 degrees (don't go down as low if you have knee problems). Repeat for 30-60 seconds and hold weights for added intensity.
Jumping Rope (with or without a rope)
30 seconds to 1 minute
Jump with both feet together, jumping only an an inch or so off the floor.
Stand in split stance, right foot in front. Bend the knees and lower body into lunge position, keeping the right knee behind the toe, torso upright and abs in. 30 seconds, then switch legs for 30 seconds and hold weights for added intensity.
Jog or WalkUp to 5 minutes Either outside or inside, walk or jog for 1-2 minutes at a brisk pace. Increase speed and work as hard as you can for 2 minutes. Recover for 1 minute.
Push Ups - On Knees or Toes
30 seconds to 1 minute
Squats with Front Kick
Stand with feet together. Bring the right knee up and extend the leg in a front kick (don't lock the knee!). Lower down into a low squat (knees behind toes) and then kick with the left leg. Repeat (right kick, squat, left kick) for 1-3 minutes.

Circuit II

Squat/Lateral Raise
Stand with feet hip-width apart, abs in and torso straight. Slowly bend knees into a squat, keeping knees behind toes. At the same time, raise arms up to shoulder level. Lower arms and stand up. Repeat for 30-60 seconds.
Squat/Lateral Raise
Side-to-Side jump 20-30 seconds Place a pillow, phone book or step on the floor and stand to one side. Jump from side to side over the object, landing with knees bent and abs in.
Plank with Leg Extension
In plank position on the ball as shown or on the floor, slowly lift one leg while keeping hips and shoulders square, abs in. Switch legs, alternating for 20-60 seconds. Modify by staying on the knees.
Jumping Rope (with or without a rope)
30 seconds to 1 minute
Jump on one foot for half the time and switch legs for the remainder, jumping only an an inch or so off the floor.
Lunge with Biceps Curls
In split stance, slowly lower into lunge (front and back legs at 90 degrees), and curl forearms towards shoulders. 20-30 seconds on each leg.
Back Extensions
Lie face down on a ball (shown) or floor with the legs extended and hands behind the head or under the chin. Roll down over the ball and then squeeze the lower back to lift the chest off the ball in a straight line. Lower and repeat for 30-60 seconds.

Fat Burning Strength and Cardio Circuit

Fat Burning Strength and Cardio Circuit

This intermediate/advanced fat burning workout takes you through a variety of cardio and strength training exercises to maximize your calorie burn. Each circuit includes 3-4 exercises for the hips, glutes, thighs, abs and upper body followed by 3 minutes of high intensity cardio. Go through each circuit once, for a shorter workout, or twice for a longer, more intense workout.

  • Precautions
  • Get a doctor's clearance if you have any medical conditions or injuries.
  • If you're a beginner or haven't been exercising consistently for at least 2-3 months, start with this Beginner/Intermediate Circuit

  • Equipment NeededVarious weighted dumbbells, a barbell (you can use dumbbells as a substitute) resistance band, step or bench, exercise ball and a mat.
How To
  • Begin with a 5- to 10-minute warm-up of light cardio (walking in place, etc.)
  • Perform each circuit, one exercise after the other for 1-2 circuits, resting when you need to.
  • Modify according to your fitness level, but try to use challenging weights when you can.
  • Sip water throughout the workout. If you get tired, walk in place (don't stop moving)
  • Monitor your intensity and make sure you stay between about Level 4-8.

Circuit 1

Step Ups
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Stand behind a step or bench wrap a resistance band underneath. Place the right foot on the step, transfer the weight to the heel and push up, keeping tension on the band. Slowly step back down and repeat for 12-16 reps. Switch sides.
Split Squats

Hold a challenging weight and stand about 3 or so feet in front of a step or platform and take the left leg back, resting it on the step. Bend both knees and lower into a lunge, keeping the front knee behind the toe. Push through the heel to stand up and repeat for 12-16 reps. Switch sides.
Plank with Leg Lift
Get into a pushup position with feet/shins resting on the ball, hands under shoulders and abs contracted. Keeping the core tight, lift the right leg off the ball a few inches, hold for a few seconds and lower. Repeat on the left leg, alternating for 8-16 reps on each side.
3-Minute High Intensity CardioUsing the machine or activity of your choice, use the first minute to warm up and then work as hard as you can for 2 minutes.  
Repeat the above circuit.

Circuit 2

Pushups on the Ball

Get into pushup position with the ball under the shins or toes (harder). Keep the abs in and back straight as you bend the elbows and lower into a pushup. Squeeze the chest to push back up and repeat for 12-16 reps.
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Holding weights just over the shoulders, lower into a squat keeping the knees behind the toes. Push through the heels to stand back up while pushing the weights over the head. Repeat for 12-16 reps.
Ball Crunches

Position the ball under the mid back and place the hands behind the head or across the chest. Squeeze the abs and lift the shoulder blades off the ball into a crunch. Lower and repeat for 12-16 reps.
3-Minute High Intensity CardioUsing the machine or activity of your choice, use the first minute to warm up and then work as hard as you can for 2 minutes.
Alternatives: 3 minutes of one exercise shown in this
Advanced Cardio Blast Workout or this Low Impact Cardio Blast.
Repeat the above circuit.

Circuit 3

Bent Knee Deadlifts

Place heavy weights on the floor in front of you. Squat down, keeping the abs in and the knees behind the toes and pick up the weights as you stand up. Squat back down to put the weights back on the floor and stand up. Repeat for 12-16 reps. Take the feet wide if this is too challenging and make sure you use your legs and not your back.
Barbell Rows
Hold a heavy barbell or dumbbells and tip forward to about 45 degrees, abs in and back straight. Bend the elbows and pull the weight in towards the bellybutton, squeezing the back. Lower and repeat for 12-16 reps.
Ball Pikes

Get into a pushup position with the ball under the shins. Engage the abs and lift the hips towards the ceiling, keeping the legs straight and ending in a pike position. iReturn to start and repeat for 10 reps
3-Minute High Intensity CardioUsing the machine or activity of your choice, use the first minute to warm up and then work as hard as you can for 2 minutes.  
Repeat the above circuit.

Circuit 4

Incline Bicep Curls

Sit on a ball and roll forward until you're at an incline. Curl the weights up towards the shoulders and lower, repeating for 12-16 reps.
Triceps Dips

Sit on a chair or bench with hands next to the hips. Lift up and take the hips forward, just in front of the bench. Bend the elbows and lower down until elbows are about 90 degrees. Squeeze the triceps to push back up and repeat for 12-16 reps.
Knee Tucks

Get into a pushup position with the ball under the shins. Engage the abs and roll the ball in, bending the knees towards the chest as you squeeze the abs. Return to start and repeat for 10-16 reps.
3-Minute High Intensity CardioUsing the machine or activity of your choice, use the first minute to warm up and then work as hard as you can for 2 minutes.  
Repeat the above circuit.